Ladies, you’re going through a rough patch right now, each having lost someone incredibly dear to them. I am not even going to begin to understand your individual sense of loss or pain but I do want to share with you my thoughts around having spent some time with you and your families this weekend.

Noms: It was wonderful to see you stand so firm and proud, honouring your great grandfather, not through words, but through the life you have chosen to lead and the example you are setting. What a privilidge to to be able to be there with your family who, even at a difficult time, made Jules and I feel special, welcome and such a part of your family. Jules and I are incredibly proud of you .

Trace: Loss is never easy but it’s hard to accept in one so young. It was wonderful to see and meet with your family and to feel the care and love they had for John and for each other. The lives today are not exactly characterised by a sense of servanthood. For me as an outsider it was phenomenal to see how your family not only serves each other but served John and his mum. I had such a sense of warmth, care and self-sacrifice.

Jen: The loss of a young one is hard in itself but when it is a result of despair and loneliness or depression, one almost wonders: What could I have done to help? How could I have made it better? The hardest part lays ahead for you, to support you friend: allow us Jen, to provide you with the strength you need.

Descanos -a resting place of pain, maybe this blogg could be your personal resting place